Today Mr.TwentySomething and discussing an article I had been given a few years ago. We found it as we were going through our bedroom and trying to de-clutter in order to finally decorate after eight months!
The article is entitled "Passive Men and Wild Women." The idea is that men, in their relationship with their wives, tend to be inactive, inarticulate, and withdrawn...PASSIVE. Women, in turn, puts on the pressure in order to feel some kind of connectedness, which causes her husband to retreat further. It finally ends with the remedy. First is the realization that men and women are different. At times, we must try to see things from a different viewpoint And second, it takes hard work. This is how the author explains it, "It's not just talking; it’s also listening. And not just listening, but also hearing. Not just hearing, but also responding, calmly and kindly." In other words, acting unselfishly in your partnership.
Speaking of the difference between men and women, here's how our conversation ended:
Me: That was such a good article! We should save it and read over it every now and then.
Mr. T: I just threw it in the trash and put a booger on it.
S-O-S!
Can anyone out there in blog land give me some tips on how to format or otherwise improve upon my blog? I'm the kind of girl that does want to have to read about it. You know the type...they get a new phone, but refuse to read the operation manual. Instead, they decided to mess around with it until they figure it out....or permanently lock their phone so they have to call the company to get it activated again. That's me.
Any help would be appreciated!
Any help would be appreciated!
The Golden Globes
We watched the Golden Globes a couple nights ago and spent some time developing a few fashion rules.
Rule Number One: If you're over 40, dress like it.
Exhibit A:
And, during my research, look what I came across. This is Jennifer from the Golden Globes a few years ago.
Now, I love Jen as much as the next girl at the hair salon, but these are some really unfortunate fashion decisions. Obviously she has fired her stylist....or her stylist is a hooker.
Rule Number Two: If you have breasts the size of Pluto, you are not allowed to wear a dress cut down to your knees.
Not Okay.
Rule Number Three: Leave your curtains at home.
That completes our comprehensive list. Learn it. Live it. Message me for my mailing address if you'd like to send a thank-you card.
On that note, I'll leave you with the ever classy, Kate Winslet. This is how an age-appropriate woman SHOULD dress:
Rule Number One: If you're over 40, dress like it.
Exhibit A:
And, during my research, look what I came across. This is Jennifer from the Golden Globes a few years ago.
Now, I love Jen as much as the next girl at the hair salon, but these are some really unfortunate fashion decisions. Obviously she has fired her stylist....or her stylist is a hooker.
Rule Number Two: If you have breasts the size of Pluto, you are not allowed to wear a dress cut down to your knees.
Not Okay.
Rule Number Three: Leave your curtains at home.
That completes our comprehensive list. Learn it. Live it. Message me for my mailing address if you'd like to send a thank-you card.
On that note, I'll leave you with the ever classy, Kate Winslet. This is how an age-appropriate woman SHOULD dress:
Adultland
I always knew that I'd be a really good grown-up. I'm an old soul, or so I'm told. While everyone was being rebellious in high school and out partying in college, I was dreaming of a cozy little home to come back to after a long day of saving the world via social work. My friends were busy working their way up the popularity totem pole while I lamented the world's seeming lack of kindred spirits.
Okay, I suppose I'm making myself sound like a complete nerd. I wasn't a nerd, per se, I just refused to follow the crowd when it came to ridiculous adolescent behavior. It caused me a lot of grief. I always had conflicting emotions between what popular culture said I should be like and who I really was or wanted to be. Still, I never compromised. Sometimes I feel the urge to make up for it a bit...but I'm all too sensible for that.
Instead, I waited out my time. It's steadily gotten better, and now I'm at a place I love. High school....blah. College....definitely not a bad time. Adultland....I'm hitting my stride. I hear that once you become a thirty something, most of that nagging self-consciousness goes away. One can only dream. For now, TwentySomething is just peachy.
Okay, I suppose I'm making myself sound like a complete nerd. I wasn't a nerd, per se, I just refused to follow the crowd when it came to ridiculous adolescent behavior. It caused me a lot of grief. I always had conflicting emotions between what popular culture said I should be like and who I really was or wanted to be. Still, I never compromised. Sometimes I feel the urge to make up for it a bit...but I'm all too sensible for that.
Instead, I waited out my time. It's steadily gotten better, and now I'm at a place I love. High school....blah. College....definitely not a bad time. Adultland....I'm hitting my stride. I hear that once you become a thirty something, most of that nagging self-consciousness goes away. One can only dream. For now, TwentySomething is just peachy.
One Week Down
I have endured my first ever 40-hour week. The verdict is still out as to how I feel about the whole situation. I decided to create a pro-con list to help me decided.
Pros:
1. I'm the youngest, cutest employee
2. I have an awesome automated signature that I get to attach to the end of all of my emails.
3. I get business cards
4. I'm now above poverty level
5. I can afford insurance
6. Since this is my first job and I have to adjust to a new schedule, I have an excuse to use all of my downtime to read and play Mario instead of cleaning (we'll see how much longer that holds up).
Cons:
1. I have to work eight hours a day
2. I have no energy to invest in relationships...or a pet. I really want a pet.
3. I don't have office space yet, so I spend my time trying to look busy. Sorting paper clips, assist with saran wrapping the Christmas tree, reading irrelevant state laws....
4. I used to cook. Now I make meals with titles like "Rush Hour Chili"
5. Coffee cake, chocolates, and pop are always lurking, waiting to attack upon my approach.
Honestly, I had a harder time coming up with cons than pros...obviously I've found my calling. It really is a good job and one that will pick up a bit after we find office space in the locations I'll be at. In fact, I have made an important decision that I must update you on. I have decided to put off graduate school for a year. After much contemplation, I decided that an extra year of money and experience would greatly benefit me. It's a new position that I'm launching and I wanted to give myself enough time to really make some headway. That said, I'm enjoying the idea of neglecting studying for a year and a half.
I finally have peace with my decision and I'm loving where I'm at.
Pros:
1. I'm the youngest, cutest employee
2. I have an awesome automated signature that I get to attach to the end of all of my emails.
3. I get business cards
4. I'm now above poverty level
5. I can afford insurance
6. Since this is my first job and I have to adjust to a new schedule, I have an excuse to use all of my downtime to read and play Mario instead of cleaning (we'll see how much longer that holds up).
Cons:
1. I have to work eight hours a day
2. I have no energy to invest in relationships...or a pet. I really want a pet.
3. I don't have office space yet, so I spend my time trying to look busy. Sorting paper clips, assist with saran wrapping the Christmas tree, reading irrelevant state laws....
4. I used to cook. Now I make meals with titles like "Rush Hour Chili"
5. Coffee cake, chocolates, and pop are always lurking, waiting to attack upon my approach.
Honestly, I had a harder time coming up with cons than pros...obviously I've found my calling. It really is a good job and one that will pick up a bit after we find office space in the locations I'll be at. In fact, I have made an important decision that I must update you on. I have decided to put off graduate school for a year. After much contemplation, I decided that an extra year of money and experience would greatly benefit me. It's a new position that I'm launching and I wanted to give myself enough time to really make some headway. That said, I'm enjoying the idea of neglecting studying for a year and a half.
I finally have peace with my decision and I'm loving where I'm at.
